Global Transformation Begins With How We Parent


Conscious Parenting: Shefali Tsabary at TEDxSF

The video above is from a TEDx conference in San Francisco. If you haven’t heard of TED or TEDx yet, I highly recommend you look into it. I’ll be posting many more videos from their conferences, as they have the best in inspirational thought leaders who present ideas worth sharing.

This particular video I found not long ago, when the term “Conscious Parent” first surfaced in my mind and I googled it to see what it was all about.

I don’t know where the thought came from, only that it seemed like the best term to describe the importance I feel for this job called parenting, and Dr. Shefali’s words seemed to be the exact message I had been seeking.

The first time I watched this video, I cried. Tears poured down my face, unable to hold back, I kept watching, connecting, resonating with the message she shared.

I’ve cried each time I’ve watched it since because of how important this concept is to me, but the first time I watched, there was one phrase that stood out the most:

“We don’t hurt our children because we are ill intentioned or evil–it’s because we are hurting ourselves.”

All I could think of was my mother.

And the pain she must have been in to say and do the things she did when I was a child.

“The extent to which we as parents know ourselves, is the extent to which our children will.”

“The extent to which we as parents can love deeply, laugh loudly, risk bravely, and lose freely, is the extent to which our children will know joy and freedom.”

These words are buried deeply within my soul. I’ve embedded them into my being. They rise to the surface of my consciousness as I embrace my own healing journey on a greater level and begin this new chapter of helping other parents do the same.

To heal ourselves, is to heal our children–and thus, we heal the world.

I’d love to hear what you think about the video, and if you’re interested in her book, you can find it here on Amazon:



I’m seriously considering creating a virtual book club, and this would be the first book I would recommend we start with. Let me know if you have any interest in something like this 🙂

~ Darcey

Darcey Rojas is the founder of The Compassionate Home. She is a Holistic Designer, Certified Design Psychology Coach, and Green Design Center Trade Partner dedicated to creating positive home environments that heal mind, body, and soul, strengthen family relationships, and nurture our true potential. Her approach to conscious home and lifestyle design involves designing spaces that meet our needs, encourage good habits, bring us closer to our loved ones, and support our health and wellbeing on a mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual level.

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